For Sunday August 25th 2013
After discussions Jo.
Between Us Only!
Things Have Not Really Changed!
People Are Just Still Misbehaving!
Things Have Simply Not Really Changed!
• Do not bite the hand that feeds you – to end licking the boot that will kick you!
• Maybe you should consider our place. Here we do respect the learned elders like you! – My Books USA Publishers.
Thursday – August 15th 2013.
This week I had tried my level best – and avoided to get embroiled into an argument with one – sorry to say it to those of my friends! – An Indian Top Sales Marketing guy – a Services Provider that I have been using for a number of years. Related to my books distribution in Oman, I have given them good business in the past – and the relationships were to mutual advantages, anyway!
There is no point to continue banging my head against brick walls – and just making it swollen and red in the process! Five years ago, I had formally reported this same guy to his Indian Superiors – and I went so far to report him formally to The Company Owners – who are Omanis – acknowledged and well known family run business. But instead of siding with the customers – and fellow Omanis – they tend to side more with their own staff – even if rude and misbehaving ones too – like this one too!
The person promised to change and behave – but simply has not! He just feels that he is beyond reproach – and nothing can touch him in any way! One would be even excused to think that he may be doing the ‘company’s dirty business’ under the cloak and face mask! In treating even qualified, experienced and professional Omanis with complete disdain and contempt. The mind just boggles of how he treats the Junior Younger Omanis under him.
These kind of things cannot be allowed to continue because always they lead to bigger things – as we have seen lately live on television.
The other day I was seeing this traumatic depressing television news coverage of a young Syrian girl of about 5 years of age – desperately gasping out ‘I am alive’ – leave me alone – unsaid! – As she wanted to cover herself from prying television cameras. It was so distressing and disheartening – to see how fast the girl could grow up in such nasty awful experiences.
We see these things – do we change? The answer is simply – No! Until the next time – if there will be such a chance then!
I then told the person that I am collecting back all my books still with you – and please keep them ready for my collection. What is the use and point, anyway? I have written two books in Management in these issues – http://www.myownmajid.com – and several column articles before! I do not know how long these things will continue – before there is a breaking point?
Perhaps it may come sooner than what we had envisaged! People should not be surprised in this!
In my book theme – A Cry For Help! – Published in 2009 – I had said – Addressing the increased extremism, fundamentalism and lack of forbearance in the working environments…. Growing radicalization of local staff…..Unhappy dissatisfied staff ….bad treatment of staff – especially by some (few) expatriates ….etc! My mistake forgetting to add …and customers and clients too!
Truthfully and honestly sincerely speaking – the problems with us Omanis are that we are very welcoming, respecting and esteeming to ‘The Invited Guests’ in our country – unalike even others near us! The few of them especially feel it is okay for these unruly unneeded behaviours and attitudes – and to in forgetting the famous expression – Biting the hand that feeds you …and ending as proved in many cases – of ‘licking the boot that kicks you’!!
I am not a Political Scientist or Expert – but since last week I have never ever felt so sad in my life ever before – because all the things I have said and cautioned about have come to pass – and I feel so sad, unhappy and miserable to keep saying – I have said it, before! Or I told you so! I tried to say the very same things – diplomatically and tactfully – in my many articles – notably last month – The Role of Advisors! The article can be found here!
Even at the dangers of losing something so nice and good that you had never had before or expected – and something you should strive to protect, defend and let it grow and prosper – the evilness and selfishness in people will just not change – even if they know their actions – or inactions – would lead to what, where and when!
I have worked in other countries in GCC – and I have met many ex worked in Oman expatriates. Though they are getting ‘better salary packages, perks and benefits than what they got here – the one thing that they miss the most – is the ‘warm welcome and esteem’ that expatriates – the so-called ‘invited guests’ – have got in Oman. This particular aspect they missed the most.
Frankly, I have seen it live too being practiced – the opposite of what we Omanis are doing! In my role of Human Resources – I had even protested in ‘defending and protecting’ schemes – and I was rudely and abruptly awakened by those doing these things against the expatriates – Brother – you are not in Oman now! That speaks volumes of what we offer and give here – to say the very least! It eventually even costed me my job!
The main problem is that some expatriates know very well that they will not get the positions and levels they are in now – if they were back at home! They may try to kid and fool – but they are fooling no one – but themselves more! I keep repeating and stressing the word FEW! This definitely has gone to their heads – and have made them contemptuous, proud and conceited.
That is the sad and bitter truth of the matter – human beings as they are in reality!
Conversely, I do not know what we Omanis may do – if we enmasse are to go and work in high influential positions in other places? How we would react, interface and behave?
As Bishop Desmond Tutu was saying to Sir Robert Frost in the interview – I do not hate the individuals who propagated, promoted and practiced Apartheid – because as an African – I do not know what their minds were really thinking? Perhaps if I was one of them – I could be doing the same – or maybe even worse! Wise words, indeed!
May Allah God Protect and Preserve us all – from His Anger and Fury – Amin.
With sincere and due apologies,
Date – August 23, 2013
Words – 1080