One Minute Silence For – Between Us Only! Column

One Minute Silence For Between Us Only! Column

Goodbye; Between Us Only!

One Minute Silence – Please!

For those who have been closely following events, you may have noticed that the column has not been published for the last two weeks now. All the explanations are here in the website.

Somebody does not need to insult your intelligence to make you feel that you are no longer welcome – or wanted!

The East Africans also say – you do not need to choose your words rightly (ethically) if you have planned to insult someone in life! That is true, really!

They also say – do not cry if someone has refused you beans (mbaazi) – it just has reduced your gas (mishuuzi)  outtake!

Please offer a minute of silence for its death! If people like Mandela have died, what is Between Us Only?

Born on March 2001 and died December 2013 – 12 years later!

Wishing you all the very best! Take Care!

Citizen – Majid bin Said bin Nasser Al Suleimany

Muscat – Oman – December 12th 2013

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  • I came to you with good advice – but you like not Good Advisors!Prophet Salah (Methu Salah) RA
  • Life cannot defeat a Writer who is in love with writing,  for life itself is a Writer’s love until death – Edna Ferber
  • If you would not be forgotten, as soon as you are dead, either write things worth reading or do things worth the writing – Benjamin Franklin
  • No need for revenge. just sit back and wait. Those who hurt you will eventually screw up themselves and if you are lucky, God will let you watch – Good Karma

This is Goodbye! Bye!

One day people will remember me – and people will search out and look out for my books – This I am very sure of!

Many Thanks!

Best Wishes and Regards – Majid Al Suleimany

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Between Us Only Column Ends!

For those of my Readers and Fans – and following my columns.

Please see Letter to The CEO – The Oman Daily Observer – as sent yesterday Tuesday December 3rd 2013.

Many thanks for your support and wishing you all the very best.

Take Care!

Majid Al Suleimany

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After Compliments;

This refers to the various correspondences via email concerning delays of due payments to me since May 2013 – and partial payments to date as also email by T. Reference also is made to the various discussions with your  TTJ and prior that with Mr. AAS at The Oman Daily Observer offices – a few months back – on the same topics.

This is to formally inform you of my immediate now withdrawal of continuing to be a Columnist with The Oman Daily Observer – as the contractual agreements have not been met from your side.

Thanking you for allowing me to be your Columnist for the past 13 years.

Please note that my decision is final and irrevocable.

Please accept my best wishes and regards – and wishing you all the very best.

Sincerely, 

Citizen – Majid bin Said bin Nasser Al Suleimany

What Women Do Not Say! Domestic Violence!

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For Sunday – December 1st 2013.

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What Women Do Not Say! 

Domestic Violence!

  • Violence is the last refuge of the incompetent! – Isaac Asimov
  • Never let a man put his hands on you without your permission! – Melda Beatty 

In my role as a Human Resources Professional – I have met many cases of victims of domestic violence – to an extent that if I were planning for a 11th book to be authored by me in this my line of books – it could be a topic by itself! Though frankly speaking my last book – Wipe My Tears! – has many articles of battered wives and on domestic violence. Even the front cover has a photo of a very pretty girl – but still yet crying!

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 The most tragic and sad part out of it all trying to justify why she had become the victim – for example he lost his job – his business is not doing well – or other such things! Yet still she will pretend that she is wearing the big sunglasses because ‘she banged her face on a car door’ etc – but does not want to show her scaled and wounded face – and body by heavy clothing!

People always ask me ‘why you do not drink?’ – is it because of the Religion? And I always strive to answer not to offend anyone from both camps – those who do – to be social! – and those who do not! The last group do not want to sit with anyone who drinks – but for I – there are no issues to sit with those that do – whilst I drink my own poison of sodas – or if possible fresh juices! That is until the abusive jokes start to fly – and I quit gracefully – before things get any more out of place and control in insults and affronts!

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The real reason I do not drink ever in my life is as a young boy getting this beating of my life from a relative who was so drunk and out of his mind – very abusive and aggressive after a few drinks – that he mistakenly thought I was his son – because we were playing together in football! His wives used to run away from home as soon as the call went out that he was now returning home from the bars!

Like we Arabs like to say – from the stomach of evil came good tidings – or the silver lining in the storm clouds! I made a vow to myself that I will never ever drink in my life – promotion or not – or asked to leave the company in my new job – because it started with my refusing to hold up in cheers a glass of wine – though I was ready to do so – if my favourite Sprite soda was in the glass – thus going half-way up to be modern and social!

Far later in my career life in HR – I came to realise which female staff to avoid for the day who came to the office as victim. Being victim did not necessarily mean being beaten and battered – but some husbands and fathers were equally good in using cruel hurting painful words as their tools – instead of the hands. The mouth was equally hurtful – if not more in some cases! But what if it is the husband – with the children – instead are the victims? Points to ponder in real life!

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A few days back I watched this television melodrama – Soapbox Mexico – Vicky’s StoryEmotions run high as a sexually abused woman who freed herself thanks to the soap opera has her story turned into an episode. Planning a special programme for the upcoming 13 anniversary of the soap, executive producer Alicia asks scriptwriter Araceli to find a case of a woman who has suffered abuse, and recovered, thanks to the programme’s message. Vicky comes forward, and Araceli adapts her story for the programme. In a deeply emotional demonstration of the back-and-forth between reality and fiction,

Vicky’s real story is played out on set. Her years of sexual abuse at the hands of a violent husband form the central theme of the episode and arguably reflect real life in Mexico where two out of every three women suffer abuse. Vicky saved herself because she called a helpline advertised at the end of What Women Don’t Say. The theme of speaking out and of breaking silence is very clearly and powerfully real ised, as Vicky makes an emotional visit to the set to watch the last scenes of her story being filmed. Another famous series is the Turkish one titled Kismet produced from Turkish women writers’ contributions from real life true stories and incidents.

Yet another series that I really liked to watch is Desperate Housewives! It is an American television comedy-drama-mystery series. The show followed the lives of a group of women as seen through the eyes of a dead neighbour who committed suicide in the very first episode. The storyline covers thirteen years of the women’s lives over eight seasons, set between the years 2004–2008, and later 2013–2017 (the story arc included a 5 year passage of time). They worked through domestic struggles and family life, while facing the secrets, crimes and mysteries hidden behind the doors of their — at the surface — beautiful and seemingly perfect suburban neighborhood.

As a Writer, Author and Columnist – I get many emails from my lady fans about their family issues – and many border actual physical abuse – let alone of verbal words – which are more common. There is a famous East Africa expression that goes like this – The real man comes out when he (suddenly!) becomes rich – and the woman when her husband has become poor, needy and dispossessed!

Some of the cases are so unbelievable – that the other day in a social occasion a prominent and famous person was asking me why I was looking intensely and staring at him – in slipping up in my thoughts! It is really shocking some of the cases – but as I had pledged confidence – sorry I am not telling – at least for now!

Some More Sayings

  • There are wounds that never show on the body that are deeper and more hurtful than anything that bleeds! – Laurel Hamilton
  • One thing that you cannot hide is when you are crippled inside! – John Lennon
  • If anyone hits me, they can expect to be hit back, and harder. I never turn the other cheek, because in my experience that doesn’t work – Alice Bag

Take Care!

By  Majid Al Suleimany

November 27th 2013

 

The Incorrigibles (In)Corruptible!

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For Wednesday – November 20th  2013.

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The Incorrigibles (In)Corruptible! 

Incorrigible – means somebody or something that is impossible or very difficult to control, correct or reform 

Incorruptible – means not to be bought – not open to bribery – honorable – honest and morally upright

  • Allah cursed the one who pays a bribe, the one who takes it and the mediator between      the two –  The Islamic      Hadith
  • The  son of Adam will not pass away from Allah until he is asked about five      things: how he lived his life, and how he utilized his youth, how did he      earn his wealth, how did he spend his wealth, and what did he do with his      knowledge      – Tirmidhi
  • I will not  let anyone walk through my mind with their dirty feetGhandi

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There is a running commentary about a certain place also notorious for bribery and corruption that it starts from the moment you board their national airline to the time you check out from your hotel and return – and that it is always advisable to carry small denominations of foreign currencies – especially USA Dollars – the  preferred one – to give out. This is in order to avoid unnecessary hassles – whether real or created – and woe to you if you wish not to engage! Everybody is in corruption – and everybody gives corruption – even if needed or not!

Frankly, I have always suspected that there was some ‘measured levels’ of corruption – most of it implied and hidden – but it was a real shocker to me to find it ‘real and live’ when I had my Consultancy a decade back. I wrote about these things before some years back – and you can find my previous articles here. This is in response to those that have been asking me why I do not write on the subject – like others have done?

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You see the point is – even if I do – nobody pays attention or read what I write – even if it is worthwhile causes like Road Safety Awareness – where people outside were ready to invest to propagate my book Being The Safe Driver! – if I could chip in US Dollars 5000 – 50% – and they would contribute the rest – to see the message and theme propagated in all the US Television channels in the format of video marketing advertising! I do not know if it is a question of bribery – or that I am just unlucky! Anyway, the titles are there – in my books and in my columns – written over 2 years ago – Being Exemplary In Life! – How Rich Can One Get? – Are You looking For A Bribe? – Taking The High Road! – Investigative Reporting! – Some Will Never Change! and Can You Buy Respects?

Our Late Father always used to lecture us – Do not take anything that does not belong to you – and avoid temptations – living beyond your means – and going for bribery and corruption – even if it is offered to you! Deny – and refuse vehemently! I was watching Al Jazeera Television and it showed – in one of its programmes – of a certain place where if somebody needed a favour from you and came with a bribe – and you denied them – then you were easily targeted for annihilation and destruction in the format of a suicide bomber! That is how serious bribery and corruption has become as one of the major social, domestic, economic and political anathema and disease there!

  • When rich villains have need of poor ones, poor ones may make what price they will      – Shakespeare
  • The accomplice to the crime of corruption is frequently our own indifference – Bess Myerson

I remember one of the Contractors I used to deal with long time back lamenting to me – I have high respects and esteem for you – but either you are a naive person – or stupid (not said!) – and designated to remain always poor in life! How poetic and right he was – but I prefer to be this way only. If you have time – feel free to go through my articles mentioned above – as there is no point in re-inventing the wheel – just to fill in the number of words required for the article!

The real thing that has to be said here is that you cannot pin corruption and bribery to a certain face or character that you will see in life! Sometimes it is a great shocker to find somebody with great features, outlooks and personalities – respectable and polite full gentlemanly – to be involved! It is always a betrayal – and Life Great Learner! Sometimes it is so sad – and unbelievable – but that is life anyway – and how the cookie crumbles!

Some More Sayings on Corruption: –

  • Truly, Allah does not change the condition of a people until they change what is in themselves.- The Holy Quran 13:11
  • The  eyes of the people are watching you!Sierra LeoneFight Against Corruption Banner
  • Corruption  is the abuse of entrusted power for private gain. It hurts everyone who      depends on the integrity of people in a position of authorityTransparency      International
  • The difference between a corrupt and a honest person; the corrupt person has a price and the honest person has valueNeha
  • It is not power that corrupts but fear. Fear of losing      power corrupts those who wield it and fear of the scourge of power      corrupts those who are subject to itAung San Suu Kyi
  • Absolute power corruptsFamous

Happy National Day Greetings!

Take Care!

By Majid Al Suleimany

Please Do (Not) Come!

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Please Do (Not) Come! 

You Are (Not) Invited!

  • Never allow someone to be your priority, while allowing yourself to be their option – Nina Potts-Jefferies

 Please forgive me for starting this today with some morbid facts – but that is how the trend is going nowadays! Frankly and honestly, I have no issues for people sending me messages, videos and audios – but sometimes we do need to ask the fundamental question of `what added gain – and advantage’ and knowledge one will have in going through the messages?

A long time ago – I still remember what my lovely Indian Assistant used to say to me that ‘a certain level of being mental’ could be okay – but exceeding it – and doing too much of it is not! She was also saying to me that if someone is determined to insult you – there is no need to choose words wisely and correctly – because whatever comes into mind is just okay – fine and dandy! Except with the last words – I told her that is also a famous East African expression also! And the point that she kept insisting that there is a very ‘thin line’ between good and evil – and sometimes you may have crossed it – inadvertently and without really thinking!

The question to ask again is this! By sending this to the person – will it be something pleasant and enjoyable – or something that is just sad and disappointing? What is the logic of sending someone videos of a lion eating a man – or a crocodile attacking a girl by the river as she is being photographed by her friend? Or the latest trend of our Syrian brothers and sisters tying up a cat for slaughter – because of the infamous Fatwa that ‘people are allowed to eat cats, dogs and donkeys’ to avoid starvation – and this even in the suburbs of Damascus itself under the war front!

At least caution and warn the person – and then it will be upon himself to open the message or not! As one of my Top Omani Directors once warned me – I sort my mail By Sender – and whatever you send me – I just delete! He found it the hard way when he deleted a very important formal HR message that involved his staff – and with the International Head Offices in London! I was able to cover myself by proving that I had sent it to him – plus repeated chasers!

And that brings us to the theme of the topic for today! I feel sorry for this guy now seeing he is in great troubles in ‘past skeletons in the closets’ – so to speak – following him now!

As they say – Be careful what you say, You can say something hurtful in ten seconds, But ten years later, the wounds are still there – Joel Osteen

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I do not know if you have noticed this? In the past people used to literally come to your house to invite you for the wedding – even if it is for men – and sometimes it comes with invitation cards – so that you do not forget – and sometimes just plain by word of mouth! Then the system went to just sending cards and phone calls. It is now at level of Messaging – and there is simply no more respects and esteem left – I would imagine – if you are a close family member, relative or friend – to also receive the same message that 400 or more have similarly received! And a worst case scenario when one asks you – were you invited to *Kalmy party? – and you were not! * Not a real person! I am talking here of the men invitation – I guess it is another worse fiasco with the ladies!

But let me ask you this! And please let us interact in response! If my son knows your son very well and they were schooling together – or are just close friends – and I tell your son – please tell your father to come to the wedding also? Okay? Do not forget! And your son even – a close friend to my son – just gets a regular messaging invitation? And when your son points out delicately – here is his mobile number – please just send him a message! But he just ignores it!!!

Would you go? I can assure you that I am not a fussy or complicated person by nature – but I think respects and esteem are in order! It reminds me of one sort of VIP saying to a friend – and the ‘good friend’ that likes to pass it on! – that I know M – but I do not know his father! This was when my father expired a few years ago – and he was contemplating whether to come or not – to the Masjid (?) to offer his condolences (!).

Like my late father used to say – nobody kisses your hand – unless you are rich and famous – or have spiked your hands with honey!

I always know that when I go to the social functions – there will be one or two odd balls that will come to upset and annoy me ‘of what is this rubbish’ you are writing? Rubbish? Can you write even quarter of the rubbish, my friend? And certainly there will be some others too – all positive and complimentary  – at least vis-à-vis!

Anyway, it reminds me of this famous expressionIf you would not be forgotten, as soon as you are dead, either write things worth reading or do things worth the writing! – Benjamin Franklin –  I think I have tried my level best  to do what I could do in my life – and remaining life on earth – but the rest is not up to me!

And finally – When I stand before God at the end of my life, I  would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left, and could say, ‘I used everything you gave me’ – Erma Bombeck

Take Care!

 By  Majid Al Suleimany

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It is better in prayer to have a heart without words than words without a heart – Mahatma Ghandi

I do not know if you have noticed this? The truth is – every time that you watch the television news – or even documentaries – you will find always someone crying – so desperately and heartedly – and the tears just flow! No one is wiping the tears – and even the Interviewer does not stop for the person to compose himself – or wipe his or her tears! It is very sad, tragic and pathetic – to unbelievable levels!

We are supposed to be human beings from the word humane – but though we may kid ourselves that we do care and feel – the truth is far from the distance. It is all a sham – a façade – all crocodile tears! Nothing less – nothing more! Our hearts and souls have turned to solid stone!

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We bow, kneel and pray to the Almighty – but it is all just routine mundane stuff – if just following customs blindly – but there is nothing of real value and esteem in it! Perhaps we are naïve to think that God does not see what is in our hearts – forget our fellow human beings!

The other day I had gone to visit my sick and ailing younger brother in

hospital. We always complain of the smaller things in life – but we do not see the bigger picture – the real true picture. We may have many issues still to sort out – but where there is a meeting of the minds and a will determined to succeed – there will always be a way out of most things in life! That you can be sure of – in one way or the other!

It is a twist and turn of life – its foibles and out comings! Because here you decide to leave the country because you have decided to marry a foreign woman as your wife! Out of all the countries of the world – you choose a woman from a country that does not allow foreigners to own land or property. A place that you will pay heavily for your medical – even with medical insurance taken – simply because you are a foreigner! And that is one way of making quick money out of you! Especially when you are sick – and have to be hospitalised!

My younger brother – but he looks far more older than the rest of us all! Sicker also! He was complaining that he did not have water for the last 27 days – not even allowed to sip water! Thanks to those in our leadership – he was finally brought back home – after the family spending heavily on his medical treatment!

Yet we still moan and complain on the small trifle things in life – never happy – nor satisfied! We want more – give us! On seeing me – my brother was crying – and there were no tissues left in the box – seems he was crying all the time! So I gave him my clean tissues which I always carry with me! So I said to him – Let me wipe your tears! Welcome back home – my brother! A second time? Or was it a third time? I forget – important is that you are back home now!

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I watch the television news. The refugee woman from Eritrea – and others from Darfur – she is crying – uncontrollably – nonstop! The tears drain down her face. The interviewer does not stop – at least to allow her to wipe her tears! Or compose herself first – before continuing! I wish I was there – because I would wipe her tears – or give her my clean tissues (and handkerchief!) with me! I would also want to ask her – What did you expect Madam?

These people have mistreated the ‘original owners’ of the land – what did you expect as a refugee – and an ‘illegal’ one too that entered the country through the back door! Did you not have freedom at home – even if hungry? Here you have no freedom and still hungry – and disgraced too on top! She was crying – My husband has been imprisoned – and my children are without! Perhaps she did not see in television so many tears and sad faces of the once who owned the land and property! They are in the land – yet crying too!

That is before other human beings from faraway places decided to move them out – to make space for their guilt of allowing the holocaust to take place – and over 6 million fellow human beings butchered and slaughtered in cold blood! Yet from the same people that are now making others cry – and wanting to preserve our ethnicity and originality imposed on others! How sad, tragic and pathetic human beings have become! Yet God still is graceful and patient – hearing his name being called in vain!

Then there is man in Mali. His hand had been chopped off – because he was suspected of stealing bread! Bread for my limb? By people determined to be more religious and observing to him – and he needed to be given a lesson! Then ‘non-believers of his sort’ come in – and the man is celebrating – to see the more observing ones being chased out to the mountains and valleys!

The woman is crying! Her husband has been killed in jail – because he threw stones at the occupiers! What if he was armed with a gun? What would his punishment have been? Even if you are in my house – my land? The East Africans say – Let him pass – the one with mightier strength! It is not a question of rights and ethics – it is just how strong you are – and where you derive your support from! The stronger the support – the more aggressive and bully you can be! Forget the rest!

Have you ever imagined this? The child is asking the mother – Why are those planes bombing us, Mummy? Are they enemy planes over our land? What does the Mother do in reply? Poor woman – she just cries! And it is the young child that now calms the mother – more braver and courageous now – Do not cry Mother! God will make those planes go away!

Because of the economy – no job – no takers! The one who lost her home? Her husband committed suicide in shame! She too is crying! Then the suicide bomber who believes he is on his way to heaven! He murders fellow believers – because he is more right and more perfect compared to others that have deviated – and need to be given a lesson of life for the deviation!

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It is always the poor needy and desperate peoples that are used to kill fellow human beings that are also poor and needy like him! Puppets over a string! Those behind the scene – the schemers and the plotters – no one sees them – except of course God – and the punishment on earth – the punishment of the grave – and eternal fire and damnation!

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Then I watch the television news in the other places – the earthquakes – the floods – collapsed buildings – the rampage killings and destructions of innocent lives – including children and women – the destructions from falling missiles – and the slaughter of even babies and children – from the weapons coming out from the sky!

The ironical and sad part is the person who has directed the onslaughts goes home in peace and comfort to his family – his wife and children – whilst killing of the other families and children – is just ‘carrying out orders – and doing one’s job’! Human beings are sickening – and worse than even the animals at their worst case scenarios!

Then there are the demonstrations for jobs – looking for jobs – afraid of losing jobs and benefits – looking for ‘more

money’ – lost incomes, investments, savings and pensions. So many stories of once nice decent good peoples – now on bad times – and of such same people committing or tempting to commit suicides – because they have lost everything – and life is not worth living anymore!

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Reminds me decades ago of a relative girl with a son – who called me in desperation – saying she was contemplating suicide – because she was ‘not happy in marriage and her husband – and husband family’ – but I did not take it seriously then – till I learnt the hard way too late that she actually did it!

And all the time listening to ‘the inner voice’ of do not get involved – or the involvement could turn more serious and sour too!

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Whatever belief and religion you have – the fundamental and basic teachings and preaching are the very same – because subduing, violence, brutality and aggressive methods and styles solve nothing – as the programmes show! Past incidents of over 20 years come out in the open again – and again from time to time – ever again! Like I always say – the very same things – and sometimes the repetition just becomes stifling, mundane and boring!

Basically, we human beings have the same needs, worries, concerns and fears – as well as what we like and do not like!

This is because the human being is essentially the same – regardless of race, creed, religion, color, ancestry, and ethnicity! And always stressing the need for change in a way and will that will foster more patience, tolerance, and understanding – between people, society and nations!

Like my good Indian friend says – something in Hindi – I forget – Karma and the other word – but something like ‘just desserts (sweet)’ coming to those that deserve it – and or as our good friends the Brits say – what goes around; comes around! Or the East African one – If you destroy someone’s house – your house will also be destroyed in due process! Sometimes after you have conveniently forgotten too! There is also this tell-tale sign of the end of the world – when somebody dies – and you feel jealous that it was not ‘you that had died instead’!

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Still Working After Sixty!

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For Wednesday – November 6th 2013.

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Still Working After Sixty!

 

  • Education is the best provision for old age! – Aristotle
  • The tragedy of old age is not that one is old, but that one is young – Oscar Wilde
  • No man loves life like him that is growing old – Sophocles
  • If you would not be forgotten, as soon as you are dead, either write things worth reading or do things worth the writing – Benjamin Franklin

 Before I start – I would like to apologise for some few weeks missed articles! Frankly and truthful speaking, I was just not in the mood! You see I have thought that things have really changed – but in reality they have not! Forgive me for being a sucker – and a naive person too – forgetting I had read many times – Animal Farm by George Orwell – as my literature study book! I have also forgotten also that I had written the article 12 years ago titled – Sorry Sir, You Are Over 50! – when I was looking for a job in HR – after the collapse of my Consultancy business post early retirement!

You see I was trying hard to get a Hire Purchase loan for replacing my old 8 years old Toyota Camry – and I went with cup in hand to all the Financial places – but vehemently rejected – even by the so-called Islamic ones – because as I was told – I was 65! It is better for me not to trouble anyone – and go to the Saih Dhabi funeral grounds to just wait for my day to exit this world!

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Anyway – back to realities – I was watching this Television Programme in Al Jazeera about The World Elderly – and was comparing about how the elderly are being treated now in different parts of the world! It is a very interesting programme and comes as part of the segment of The News Programme. If you are a Jazeera fan – you might have noticed it – unless you switch ofF after the main segment of the news!

No wonder the whole word is now becoming agitated, traumatised and in despair, confusion and in depression watching these news! In one of the news bit – a Syrian young woman laments cuttingly – why their families are trying to smuggle their way to Europe – with young children with them – and with the dangers of sinking overloaded boats to unwelcome ports – because she believed ‘The sea will be more merciful to us than people are here to us (another Arab country) – at least when we get to Europe – we will be human beings again! Very sad – and very much telling!

The programme looks at what those challenges are, how the elderly can keep contributing to society and whether enough is being done to support them. This is because the world is getting old fast and within the next 10 years, there will be more than one billion people over the age of 60. The UN is calling for governments to take action and face this new reality.

In these elderly programmes they show how they are being treated in different countries – with live examples and interviews of the old people involved! The question comes into mind what is old? Reminds me of an incident of a young Omani graduate recruited casually remarking to my then British boss that as he was 52 – he must be old! Old? retorted the good man. You think I am old at 52?

He was so upset that I had to use my best persuasion skills to make the young lad not lose on his being planned education abroad! Trust our youngsters to say whatever quickly comes to their minds – without really thinking! In another incident – an Omani Manager was throwing out my short listed best candidates for an Engineering job – because the top candidate was over 50 – even though the Manager himself was far much older! But that is how the cookie crumbles – as our good friends the Brits say!

Coming back to the programme – the elderly in Afghanistan fare very badly ‘as the worst place on earth to be elderly’ – as the programme points out! By tradition, the elderly are expected to be looked after by their children – and as the unemployment is so high – and people are struggling to make ends meet – the youngsters are abandoning their old ways of doing things in looking after their parents and the elderly!

As a result – the old people are forced out to go out and find menial work in order to survive. It is so disheartening and so sad to see some of them chopping wood with the feeble remaining strength they have to earn pittance money in order to survive! This is supposed to be a Muslim traditional conservative environment where people are bound to respect and esteem their parents – and look after them!

In a more secular and modern environment – we are shown in later programmes – of how the elderly are being treated in South Korea – where the State has jumped in to help the elderly by incentive programmes given to The Private Sector to still recruit experienced and qualified citizens into jobs – and to continue working well after even 65 to 70s – because they want to avoid the social problems in the country – when the youngsters continue to fail dismally to look after their parents – and the elderly!

In one of the real sad things I have seen in my life – is to see this old woman doing pittance menial job followed behind by her sick mental patient daughter – because as she the Mother says – she will do everything she could till her last breath then to put her sick daughter into a mental institution – even if she will be looked better there than she could ever imagine!

My son got married, I had to work to ‘save face’Retiree at Son’s Home – Korea.

Yet here we are complaining of such petty things – and forget that there are people out there really and really trying hard to survive – with the very little things that they have! And that includes me too for that matter – for over dramatising – for not being able to get a new car – unless my children guaranteed it for me – as being high risk factor due to my age!

Though, I have seen so many youngsters die early than me – some from nasty road accidents – that even prompted me to write the book – Being The Safe Driver! – http://www.bethesafedriver.com/ . I am very much convinced – frankly and honestly and genuinely speaking – that somewhere, someplace there is someone dead set jealous at least I have an old car!!

Take Care – and Keep Smiling! Happy New Islamic Year 1435 AH

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Inside Story – Looking After An Ageing World.

“I think this is a cause for concern because the young’s fertility is declining and life expectancy is increasing all over the world … these issues are not clear to many of the developing countries. This is a social as well as a demographic issue and the government is very concerned about how to tackle this issue.”

– Hafiz Khan, former Research Fellow at the Oxford Institute of Population Ageing

A book that kindles soul-searching! Book Review – The Daily Observer

A book that kindles soul-searching!

Book Review – Culture Features – The Oman Daily Observer

Tuesday 22nd, October 2013 / 17:55

Written by Oman Observer in Culture

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Front Wipe My Tears

Wipe My Tears! — Between Us Only!has been adapted from Majid Al Suleimany’s successful newspaper columns in Oman Daily Observer. Utilising the very best touching stories and articles from the columns that he has penned over the past four years, Al Suleimany touches on a wide variety of vital and riveting topics. The subject matter will be of interest to everyone from teenagers to grandparents — and from the clerks to the CEOs. The book focuses on the study of humanity, human needs, human interaction, society, and economics, as well as other areas. In fact, the author covers all socio-economic-political aspects of society, with an emphasis on working environments such as office space.

The author also addresses society as a whole, and the dire repercussions and consequences of bad ideas and thoughts that can be harmful to society in the broadest sense. Though many topics apply to Oman and GCC countries, the collection of columns organised by Al Suleimany offers a universal appeal because, in his view, society and family are quite similar.

According to the author, “We have the same needs, worries, concerns and fears — as well as what we like and do not like. This is because the human being is essentially the same — regardless of race, creed, religion, colour, ancestry, and ethnicity!” The book will encourage soul-searching, deep analysis, and a quest to make the world a better place. It has been penned directly from the heart of the author to the reader. It carries many emotional personal family stories and encounters — including work experiences as a highly-qualified human resources management consultant.

The book moves quickly, advancing without boundaries, and is careful never to get bogged down in politics. While critical, the writings are also realistic and practical, and stress the need in society for change in a way that will foster more patience, tolerance, and understanding. The author, through his writings, offers up a tome that is part prayer and part preaching, desperately hoping for a change in the world that will produce a new and more positive direction.

“Live and let live in peace, harmony, and co-existence,” is Al Suleimany’s mantra. States the author, “We have the same needs, worries, concerns and fears, as well as what we like and do not like. This is because the human being is the same regardless of race, creed, religion, color, ancestry, and ethnicity!” The book will encourage soul-searching, analysis, and a quest to make the world a better place. The writings are realistic and practical, and stress the need in society for change in a way that will foster more patience, tolerance, and understanding — as well as how to live with others in the world.

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System Overload! The Mafias!

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 Between Us Only!

 System Overload!

 Or Just The Lack of Job Responsibilities, Ethics and Professionalism!

  •  O you who believe! Fear      Allah and be with the true ones (in word and deed) – The Holy Quran – 9:119
  • Life      cannot defeat a Writer who is in love with writing, for life itself is a      Writer’s love until death – Edna Ferber
  • It is      a wastage of energy to be angry with a man who behaves badly, just as it      is to be angry with a car that won’t go – Bertrand      Russell

System Overload – According to Mosby’s Medical Dictionary – System Overload is an inability to cope with messages and expectations from a number of sources within a given time limit. Not to be confused with  also “System Overload” – which is a garage rock song by New Zealand Rock and Roll band The Datsuns. It is their second single off the album Smoke & Mirrors. It was released on both Vinyl and Compact Disk in 2006. It is typical of The Datsuns style. With loud guitar, a lead break and dominant vocals. Electricians describe it when ‘electricity ‘trips down’ (shuts down!)!

With the very start of this column over 12 years ago – I had resolved to speak the truth – even if it will cost me! And cost me it did – but that has not deterred me! My first article was titled More Dangerous and Troubled Waters Ahead! And everything that I had said in it – and others that followed – all came out in truth and in reality!

Mark Twain had said – Always do right. This will gratify some people and astonish the rest! Also in our HadithIf one of you sees something wrong, let him change it with his own hand; if he cannot, then raise voice and speak out against it; if he cannot do even that, then dislike or hate it in your heart, but that is the lowest degree of faith! And on Truth – Say what is true, although it may be bitter and displeasing to people! – by Baihaqi.

The other day I had gone to this Electronic shop to buy a new laptop after my current one went obsolete. There were three Sales People – all expatriates – attending to one European Expatriate. So I sidled to the one salesman on the outer and asked him about the models that I was interested and within my limited budget. Just like I would like to drive the Top Model Range Rover – but I have to consent to staying with my 8 year old banger Camry – because I cannot get the Hire Purchase to buy a new one – even if I can afford it – because of my age. You see I am over 55 – and already put in the list of the ‘living dead’ here! That is how life is now – and how the cookie crumbles!

Anyway, the more friendlier of the lot – guess it was a Filipino – pointed to the direction of where I could see the machines that I was interested in! Maybe he saw me intently looking at the machines – or maybe he thought I would steal or spoil something – then he reluctantly came over! As I had done my research already – I told him to reduce the price – because I needed an up to date Printer also! The good man did!

As I was going out – this nice European lady – from the goodness of her heart – turned to the Salesmen reprimanding them – See you all ignored him – and he bought these things from you! Yet all of you were concentrating with us – ignoring him – and all we are doing here is ‘window shopping’! Let that be a lesson for you in the future! That cooled me down greatly from the ‘milk of humane kindness’ – and made me feel so bad for a considerable while after that!

And this is the point I want to make here! Maybe there are a few bad eggs or fish in the basket – but the trend and approach is ‘controlled apathy and disdain’ against the locals – for no other reason than dislike and ridicule – and contempt! They try hard to hide it – but if you have even an iota of perception – you will not fail to notice it! Especially nowadays! I do not know why these things are happening to us locals now? Maybe we are all made to blame to what is happening to some of them – so the whole lot of us have to be penalised and to be punished in turn!

This is not only in shops – but in the Offices too – including the so-called high profile places – and more even by the locals to their fellow locals – and especially in situations where the expatriates still dominate and control – and the top locals are just window dressings – or ‘figure heads’ only! With all the works and initiatives still being done by the expatriates – and who are ready and willing for the local boss to take points and credit – even if they (expatriates) remain not in the limelight and exposure!

Omani Faces - Toyota

The Omanis Are Strangers In Their Own Land!

Woe to you if you antagonise the Mafia lots – and a few of them have ‘the ears’ of the local bosses. The Local bosses are good Actors, Performers and Impersonators – and if you go to complain and grudge – they pretend to be attentive and caring – whilst all the time working against you! I know I am talking of few misguided cases – but their damages are more harmful and devastating – especially if they come from the so-called high profile places! Red lines have been crossed so many times before – but people just do not care – and still keep pushing!

Omani Men

The Omanis Are Strangers In Their Own Land!

 I do not know how long these things will go on – before there is an explosion – like that cinder fire burning underneath and within heatedly and unseen – until it just surfaces – intently and heatedly! I have said so many times in this column – Do not bite the hand that feeds you – because you may end licking the boot that kicks you! They also say – Those that do not learn from history – are apt to repeat the mistakes of the past!

Take Care!

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By: Majid Al-Suleimany

Added Remarks!

This was written 4 years ago and edited version had appeared in my column Between Us Only! in The Oman Daily Observer!

Surprisingly and amazingly – in default and inadvertently still – it is still relevant and applicable to my own status quo and all the things happening around us now!

QED!

Drink – and Fly??

Flight AFLIGHT

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 Drink and Fly?

Or The Mixing of Drinks and Drugs – Whilst Flying!

We always talk of DUI – Driving Under The Influence? But Drink and Fly too?

 I was reading this scary news of some pilots admitting that they had gone to sleep whilst flying – in some cases both pilots at the same time! If that is not scary enough – I do not know what is! Unless one of them has ‘fake licenses’ in flying! As a kid – one of my life’s ambitions was to be a Pilot. Indeed, I believe that I would have made a good one too – if the qualifications were more directed ‘at not smoking and drinking at all’ – amongst the others!

I was really intrigued to watch this film Flight  – it is a 2012 American drama film starring Denzel Washington – Whip Whitaker – and was nominated for the Academy Awards. The film message and theme is the ‘destruction of the family home’ by being Alcoholic – usually by the man – but in some cases for both the couple – in a worst case scenario! The victims – in any case – are the children more – if they too do not develop to being ‘alcoholics and drugs victims’ – and even prostitution – because of broken homes! In many cases, the vicious cycle continuous with them not being able to be ‘good parents’ to their children too!

About The Film. On October 14, 2011, Airline captain Whip Whitaker – Denzel Washington – awakens in his Orlando hotel room with flight attendant Katerina Márquez – Nadine Velazquez – after a night of sex, drinking, drug use, and very little sleep. After using cocaine to wake up, he boards SouthJet Flight 227 as pilot to Atlanta. After Whip threads the plane through severe turbulence at takeoff, copilot Ken Evans takes over while Whip discreetly mixes vodka in his orange juice and takes a nap.

Flight 1

Have you seen a Passenger Plan Fly This Way?

He is jolted awake as the plane begins its descent, and the aircraft goes into a steep dive. Unable to regain pitch control, Whip rolls the plane upside down to arrest the dive. While this is happening in the cockpit a young boy hasn’t done his seat belt properly so Katerina undoes her seat belt saving the child but ultimately causing her death.

Meanwhile Nicole – Kelly Reilly – is seen going out of her house to her drug dealer after begging for some heroin she is giving some, but an extremely strong dosage and is told only to smoke it and some cocaine for if she gets depressed. When she returns home she finds her door unlocked and enters to find her landlord. She tricks him and locks him out before knocking over her box of drugs seeing the needle she insert the heroin and injects herself before having an overdose. As she is wheeled out of the house by a paramedic the upside down plane is seen flying over the flats.

Back on the plane with the engines failing he realizes they will not make it to a runway, so he rolls the plane upright and manages to make a forced landing in a field. He loses consciousness on impact and is dragged out of the aircraft by a passenger. Whip awakens in an Atlanta hospital with minor injuries, where he is greeted by his old friend Charlie Anderson – Bruce Greenwood – who represents the airline’s Pilots Union.

He tells Whip that he saved 96 out of 102 people on board, 2 crew and 4 passengers, but an National Transportation Safety Board (NTSB) official informs him Katerina was among those killed. While sneaking a cigarette in the stairwell, Whip meets Nicole, who is recovering from an overdose of heroin, and promises to visit her when they leave the hospital. In the morning, his friend and drug dealer, Harling Mays John Goodman – picks him up and sneaks him away from the hospital.

Whip drives to his late father’s farm and dumps out all his alcohol. When he meets Charlie and attorney Hugh Lang – Don Cheadle – they explain that the NTSB performed a toxicology screen while he was unconscious, showing that Whip was intoxicated. The results could send him to prison on alcohol, drug, and manslaughter charges. Hugh promises to get the toxicology report voided on technical grounds, but Whip leaves in a fury and seeks out Nicole.

He finds her bailing on her lease, bribes her landlord not to pursue her, and brings her to the farm. Nicole and Whip soon become intimate, but Whip begins drinking again while Nicole is trying to stay clean and sober. He then attends Katerina Márquez funeral whereupon he meets Margaret he persuades her to tell the NTSB that he was sober upon the day of the crash.

Nicole brings him to a recovery meeting. Whip leaves early to visit with his Co-pilot Ken Evans who remains hospitalized, has recently come out of his induced coma, but remains severely injured. He tells Whip that both his legs and pelvis are crushed and his has little to no chance of walking unaided and no chance of ever flying a plane again.

Whip is sympathetic towards Evans injuries. However Evans explains how he knew Whip was drunk and how he could smell the gin and vodka on Whip, but believes all people where put on earth for a reason and Whips hasn’t come yet. So therefore Evans will not tell the NSTB about Whip being drunk.

Nicole and Whip catch up with each other back at the farm. Whip importunes Nicole to run away with him. She demurs: and as soon as Whip is drunk again, Nicole leaves.

When Whip finds the media outside his farm’s gate, he drives drunk to the home of his ex-wife and son, who compel him to leave. In leaving his wife’s home, he is mobbed by the press and clearly presents as not playing with a full deck. Whip flees to Charlie’s home and begs to stay with Charlie’s family, vowing not to drink again before the NTSB hearing. The night before the hearing, Whip is moved into a guarded hotel room to ensure he does not get drunk. His minibar has only nonalcoholic beverages, but when he finds the door to the adjacent room unlocked, Whip discovers it has a full minibar.

Charlie and Hugh find him the next morning, passed out, and still intoxicated. They call Harling, who revives him with cocaine for the hearing. At the hearing, Ellen Block  – Melissa Leo – the lead NTSB investigator, explains that a damaged elevator assembly jackscrew was the primary cause of the crash. She commends Whip on his valor and skill, explaining that no other pilots were able to land the plane in simulations following the crash.

Then she reveals that two empty vodka bottles were found in the trash of the plane, but none were served to the passengers. Only one of the crew’s toxicology reports was positive for alcohol, although one was excluded. Since Katerina’s report was positive for alcohol, Block asks Whip if he believes that she drank it. Rather than lie and permanently taint her good name, Whip admits that he drank it, that he flew intoxicated, and that he is intoxicated at that moment.

Thirteen months later, an imprisoned Whip tells a support group of fellow inmates that he is glad to be sober and does not regret doing the right thing, because he finally feels “free”. He tells the support group he lost his piloting license, but not his faith in telling the truth.

He has pictures of Nicole and other family and friends on the wall of his cell, along with greeting cards congratulating him on being sober for a year. He is working to rebuild his relationship with his son, who visits his father to talk with him about a college application essay on “the most fascinating person I’ve never met.” His son begins by asking, “Who are you?” Whip replies “That’s a good question.”

If this will not make you think about life – nothing else will!

Take Care!

By: Majid Al-Suleimany

 Date – September 30th 2013