A Death In The Family!

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For Wednesday – November 27th  2013.

Between Us Only!

A Death In The Family!

  • To a father when a child dies, the future dies; to a child when a parent dies, the past dies! – Red Auerbach
  • It is after death that we measure men! – James Barion Hope

It was really touching to see the human race coming together as one to give peace and diplomacy a chance – and for human beings to come together to discuss their own problems and issues face to face vis-à-vis – and come to an amicable solution for the interests and the benefits of all and for human kind as a whole! Even if there were no winners or losers at the end – and difficult and hard decisions had to be made! I was really traumatised – and can only hope and pray that it will eventually work out! Quiet diplomacy has won the day again! It was only my wish and prayers that some had really watched – and had learnt the lesson!

Last two weeks, I received a What’s Up message from one of our distant relatives in the Interior – of someone with similar tribal name having expired! The presumption was automatically that there had to be some relationships – even if far and isolated! The Western world specifically does not know or appreciate this ‘extended family link’ in our lives – especially when it comes to applying company rules and regulations – like obligations of attending funerals etc. Even if – and although the modernity application was used – from the old days and ways of telephone usages – or sending of emissaries to deliver messages!

A few days back, we received a similar message – but this time from India that our uncle had died there. Though since he moved there from the distant land – there was no real contact until his death. Then one questions oneself whose fault it was really that this so happened? Amazingly, all these type of questions only come out – when death has struck – and everyone feels remorseful and guilty! For a temporary phase and time only – until the next time! Having seen how people drive once back on the road – where only a few minutes back we had buried someone as a casualty and victim of a road accident!

Funeral Pyre

The Funeral Pyre – For Demonstration Purposes Only!

When I was a young boy, we used to have a small library in that distant small island. Trust the colonialists’ wives led by The District Commissioner (DC) to be so forthcoming and charitable to even organise to have books to form a library where – even students could borrow books! Post independence the library took a natural death with one by one of the books just ‘mysteriously disappearing’ from the shelves! It was written by me in my article – The District Commissioner’s Wife! – several years back!

One of the books that really had a traumatic affect on me at that time was titled A Death In The Family. Even today after more than forty years it still does – and I still remember that book! I do not know who in the end took the book away from the shelves – but what a pity – and shame on him or her for denying others to share the book from the library!

Islamic Grave

Islamic Grave – For Demonstration Purposes Only!

About The Book –  A Death in the Family – by James Agee and Steve Earle –

Forty years after its original publication, James Agee’s last novel seems, more than ever, an American classic. For in his lyrical, sorrowful account of a man’s death and its impact on his family, Agee painstakingly created a small world of domestic happiness and then showed how quickly and casually it could be destroyed.

Funeral A Funeral

Images – Funerals – For Demonstration Purposes Only!

On a sultry summer night in 1915, Jay Follet leaves his house in Knoxville, Tennessee, to tend to his father, whom he believes is dying. The summons turns out to be a false alarm, but on his way back to his family, Jay has a car accident and is killed instantly. Dancing back and forth in time and braiding the viewpoints of Jay’s wife, brother, and young son, Rufus, Agee creates an overwhelmingly powerful novel of innocence, tenderness, and loss that should be read aloud for the sheer music of its prose.

In his Pulitzer Prize–winning novel A Death in the Family, James Agee reconstructs through the lens of fiction the real-life car accident that claimed his father when James was not yet six years old. Leading us from the evening of the phone call that sets the tragedy in motion to the funeral that strives to bring the calamity to closure, Agee offers a plot that is simplicity itself, and the occurrences he describes are perhaps no different from those that would transpire within any family that has had a member suddenly stolen from its midst. Despite its seeming straightforwardness, however, A Death in the Family is a novel of surprising profundity and aching lyricism.

A triumph of literary style and psychological acumen, A Death in the Family excels in its brilliant attention to the too-often overlooked nuances of thought, speech, and action that comprise the true fabric of being. One of the most intensely personal novels ever written, it also transcends its author’s subjectivity to shed clear light on the mysteries of life and death, of faith and unbelief, in which all of us inescapably share.

More Sayings: –

  • Every man must do two things alone; his own believing and his own dying! – Martin Luther King
  • Always go to other people’s funerals, otherwise they won’t come to yours! – Yogi Berra

Sorry for a morbid subject! Take Care!

By  Majid Al Suleimany