All Under One Flag – Feel And Act As One!

All Under One Flag – Feel And Act As One!

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By Majid Said Nasser Al Suleimany

Posted on November 13, 2010 by Editor in Archives

 

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This article was originally written on November 13 2010 – 5 years ago – and still felt as valid and relevant. Appeared in Knowledge Oman and Oman Daily Observer also!

As kids, we have read all these stories. Most of us have been told these stories by our parents, grandparents or have read them in school too!! How come we conveniently have forgotten all these now?

This is the story of the Father laying on his deathbed and calling his children around him. Then he gives each child a stick and asks them to break the stick in two. Each one of them is able to do that. Then he takes all the sticks and ties them up in a bundle. He then asks each child to do the same. None of them are able to break up the bundle.

Each one of them looks in amazement and awe at their dying father and what he is now up to. Then the father cautions – so long as you stick together as one, nothing will ever happen to you in your lives. But if you get out of the bundle and be as a single stick, everyone outside can break you into two. You must always be together and act as one. Remember this always my children! If you want to bring in drama and heroics in, the father soon dies after saying this. In real life, the father lives a bit longer, before the last breath leaves his body, giving enough time for his children to do their home works and comprehend their father’s teachings!

A long time ago when I was in Secondary School in that distant land, this was the time of the Apartheid system in South Africa. We had some Black Africans from South Africa who were there as refugees, and some of them joined our school too. At that time, I was the Head Prefect of our wing in school, and one of my jobs was to invite and welcome new students in the school. This particular student was very hostile to me. He used to tell the local African students why do you keep a ‘coloured’ (I came to know later it meant Arabs and Asians in his left behind country, and as his white African brothers peers were ruling the country in their absence). Why do you keep this coloured as your Head Prefect? Are you not ashamed of yourselves? Have you no pride? What is wrong with you peoples?

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All Under One Flag – Feel And Act As One!

 

I was really taken aback by these unprovoked and uncalled for challenges, when all that I was trying was to make the guy feel welcome and at home, as my job duties, aspects and responsibilities called on up on me to do so. I got very angry and annoyed and decided to quit. The Students Council and The School Management refused to accept this, and I was really touched to see the students stand up (most of them fellow blacks but of another country) and tell the guy off. In the end, this chap became my very good friend, as the knack in me to bring friendships and trust where previously there was hostility and annoyance.

All the students told him off – he was selected by us not because of his colour but by the trust, faith, credibility and confidence that we have on him – and nothing else – and he is one of us. You – you are a stranger and guest to our country – so please behave as one!

Long time ago I was forced as part of the college curriculum in that place to read about Socialism. In one of the Marxist theories, they believed in breaking up law and order by the use of a gun (actual words peace comes through the barrel of the gun!). One of their theories was to divide the peoples and leadership by such tactics and show the leadership in poor format. But the punch line was – Divide and conquer.

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My Late Father PBUH – He went to Zanzibar Africa at age of 22 with my late elder brother and sister. His parents like him were all born in Oman. So my maternal grandparents – from Manah to Hayll Al Ghaaf – Quriyat! Rest of us born there!

That is a plain message when you want to divide and split your enemy, by giving colouring and specifics to peoples, so they end up paying homage and more interests in this than at looking as they say the bigger picture. Or not looking outside the box. Or not seeing the forest because of the trees.

One country that I really admire is India. Where else in the world you would have a Muslim President, a Sikh Prime Minister, and a Christian as a Defence Minister. Whichever part of India you come from, you are one as First Indian. The same case is in USA with their multi-ethnic backgrounds, with a Black American as Secretary of State. Then you have all the mix, and even refugees to the country can make it to being rich and high positions of state (Remember Dr. Kissinger and Madeline Albright?). Now President Obama – the first non-white USA President.

For our future generations and for record in history books, we need to impart on our younger generations that due to the complexities involved in our history, we may come from different backgrounds – but we are first and foremost as first Omanis and this is the only country that God has given to us as our own. We need to stop these polarizations and bringing up artificial splits and divisions. Remove all these pointing out fingers. Remove all the jealousies, envies and what have you. In the global village we are now in, we cannot afford such things and must be shunned at all costs.

One time while studying in UK in my Business Studies, I made a grave mistake to talk badly about one Indian descendant guy but nationality of a different country. The guys from that land (if you want to say original owners of the land or natives) were pissed off with me and put me directly into my place.

I make the call again today.

We are all as Omanis as one people. We must all be as ONE and love each other as ONE. Despite any artificial differences or nature, we are as one. We see things unfolding in front of our eyes in other places, and we must learn from these. There is nothing as bad and ugly as seeing things gone wrong in other places, and you as a human being with God’s graces and intelligence and wisdom given not doing anything to change and or confirm. We become only worse than animals.

*** We can still do Much more***

We as Omanis can still do much MORE by loving each other MORE; be MORE kind, gentle, caring, generous and feeling to each other MORE, support each other MORE, be one people under one flag and one Nation under HM MORE; help, assist and co operate with each other MORE; avoid differentiating, polarising, friction avoidance MORE – and not let others outsiders interfere and try to divide and split us MORE.

We owe it to HM, our beloved nation, our history, traditions, heritage, culture, customs and values more. HM has made great personal and self sacrifices for us all Omanis that today we can hold our heads high with pride, esteem and dignity. It is not what we think and feel – but we will be judged by our ACTIONS – and not empty WORDS or RHETORICS!

The time to do that is now, not tomorrow. Just Now!

We wish him a very long life and health – and for the renaissance and enlightment to ever continue and move ever forward – Amin.

 

Are You Fasting This Ramadhan?

Are You Fasting This Ramadhan?

Did you pass the examination?

 June 23, 2015

The Real Test of Time!

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 I do not know about you, but it has happened to me! I have gone to these Academic Examinations where I thought the exam was quite easy – and had even left before the last half hour where exits are no longer allowed! The results at the end where quite shocking! I have also gone to exams where I thought I had failed! Only to find surprisingly that I just managed through a Pass mark! I was so sure I had failed and was already studying for a reseat exam! This was in Physics – which I really hated!

You see I became and am an Arts Student – and as I was not good in Science Subjects – especially in Physics and Mathematics! In one famous Chemistry exam, I had failed badly – because I did not read the instructions carefully before attempting the examination! The instructions were to choose one question each from Sections A to C – and guess what I did! I thought it said only one question from A or B or C – and I failed the examinations badly!

Now the Holy Month of Ramadhan is just like a Test to me! If you do not follow the instructions to the test you can fail badly! Like backbiting someone – talking bad things about people – cause trouble strife and mischief and in sowing arguments, discords, splits and division amongst people! Or just looking at things from your angle – and do not care or bother about the rest! Even in the Holy Fasting Month of Ramadhan!

Now we come to the Ten Thousand Dollars Question! Those of us fasting yet suffering from sickness like Diabetic (2) etc. You just end up just wasting your efforts and time – because your Fast will not be accepted – and is like going hungry and thirsty for 15 hours – wasted efforts and energies! You might as well had eaten and drank – instead of fasting! Failed in your Ramadhan Exams! Miserably!

 

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To The VIP Guest! My Sincere Heartfelt Apologies!

 I was at one time long time ago at a Religious Scholar house! So I gleefully told him – he was aghast! Only 9 days left for Ramadhan! He scolded me point blank – Ramadhan is a VIP Holy Guest – and you do not show him signs of tiredness and fatigue – of not welcoming him – and wanting him to go!

I started fasting at 8 years old! It was a difficult time! When I saw my late Grandfather cry ‘because Ramadhan was going – and he was not sure if he will fast next time – he had Parkinson and was also a Diabetic! – as a child I thought this weird! Because as a child I wanted it go – as fast as it could! And even as an adult repeated in front of The Sheikh! He said sternly to me – if you talk to Ramadhan like this – as if he was a person! You will make him feel not welcome – and not wanted! No one has forced you to fast!

So I told him I was Acute Diabetic case! He did not accept my explanation – The Religion is clear – if you cannot fast for a valid medical reason – then do not fast! Last year my glucose count went to 3 – so I broke fast 6 days in the month!

 So far going strong – and I hope and pray for the best! And Oh Yes – to pass the examinations too!

 Allah God Always Direct us all to the Right Path and Way – Ameen!

 Ramadhan Kareem!

 Best wishes and Regards,

 Majid Al Suleimany

 Be The Safe Driver!

http://www.bethesafedriver.com

June 23, 2015

 Ramadhan 6 1436 AH (Not counting! 🙂 )

Ramadhan Inspirational Quotes!

 http://www.msn.com/en-ae/lifestyle/lifestyle/75-inspirational-quotes-that-will-change-your-life/ss-AA9cHxM

 

 

 

 

There is no more Rahmah now!

There is no more Rahmah now!  رحمة

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With Beard …… With No Beard (in Protest!)

Reference my Social Media inputs also in FB Google Twitter & LinkedIn yesterday Monday June 15 2015!

Allah Kareem! God Is Great! Ramadhan Kareem!

Majid Al Suleimany 

Mean Dastardly Bosses (Still)!

Mean Dastardly Bosses (Still)!

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The New Arab Management Books! http://www.myownmajid.com

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Previous Early Two Arab Management Books! http://www.myownmajid.com

It has been a long time since I wrote anything – so please bear with me! 🙂

The other day at a Supermarket in town I met this ex-boss also shopping. There is nothing he can do to me now – even touch a hair on my head – but me being me I thought I would be nice and pass some pleasantries to him! So I remarked to him – Please keep it up! You are maintaining your figure and keeping fit!

Instead of saying the usual Thanks! And even curse under your breath if you want – he looked me up and down – and his usual self of meanness, wickedness and being dastardly he retorted – And you? Getting fatter now! You cannot even walk properly now! Hey – that is dangerous for you – you know?

I looked at him up and down – and was going to give him a BIG piece of my mind – when the good side of me got better of me – and I just stammered unintelligently Seeing his pride and joy at ‘hurting me again’ he walked away from me – but the nice neighbourly girl he was with crisply replied back to him – No! You got it wrong! He has actually lost weight!

What losing weight? He retorted – Do not give him a big head! Watch it my friend! He said – as walking away from me with the girl they came shopping together – or had met there – I would not know!

As I had finished shopping – I met him at the Paying Counter as he was head of me – and he had just finished shopping – and he was arguing with the poor Omani Sales Girl that she gave him less change by one Omani Rial! Can you imagine? Just one Rial? And he was one of the highest paid guys in the company then! The girl was arguing defensively that she gave him the Right Change! But he insisted she was mistaken! The poor girl took one Rial more from the counter and gave him. Pleased with his winning he went away!

As I was clearing my purchases, the girl was helping me to put the goods in the plastic bags. I was thinking to myself that this poor girl will have one Rial deducted from her salary at ends takings – because of this mean person – so I volunteered her ‘to keep the change’! A few Rials anyway in compensation!

This person was a very sick person for a long time – and you would have imagined that he would have changed! He was mean as usual – especially to ‘those he disliked’ and ‘not in his Favour List’! As I always say – you can never take the spots away from a leopard – or stripes from a tiger! Or as the famous Arab story of the Frog and the Scorpion – I just cannot change! It is just by my nature!

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Your Reputation Precedes You!

I meet this friend of mine – an Omani Engineer! As a Technician Student then, I looked after him. He is now in the ranks of a General Manager of a new Consultancy firm – after retiring also!

So I tease him – I know the answer already! Any chance of a Temporary, Part-time or Consultancy job in HR, Training or Omanisation? He says to me – send me your CV – I will see if anything can be done! But mind you – I am not promising anything! So I put him at ease – I am just teasing and joking you!

Not really interested to be insulted again by even our own impudent Youngsters that have grown ‘too big for their shoes’! Let alone Foreigners and Old Guards before as the norm! I am not interested to work for anyone now – and end not delayed in payments – or even the dreaded ‘not paying you at all’ after delivery of services rendered by finding excuses and technicalities ensured that you do not get paid!

For example did not get the contract – what has that got to do with me? Everything – the young Omani GM says to me – your work as part of the bid – was not successful to get the bid! Or you get paid by difficulties – 3 months later – after threats and counter threats of legal action!

Adding salt to wound – he calmly says to me – M – Your Reputation Precedes You! People know that they cannot push you around – that you refuse to push dirt under the carpet! You stand your grounds! And what guaranty they have that you will not write about the incidents in the company in your new Management books? Now that your columns have been killed – by a Technicality? By also a Younger (New) Omani brother? Think about it!

I have, Brother! I retort! I have! I was just teasing and joking you! It is not sour grapes! Take it in the right way it is presented! Not only for the above reasons – but I even now give advices to those College students if they should specialize in HR?

I tell them point blank! You will be crazy to go into HR – the way things are brewing (burning) in the Offices now – like what I always say – like that cinder fire burning intensely underneath – waiting to explode at any time! When I wrote my article More Serious Issues At Stake! I had a sinking inner feeling – an Omen – a premonition – that ‘this article will now end my columns for good now!

I am not trying to be smart now – but the East African say – Those that deny you beans (mbaazi) are just reducing your gas intake (farts!). Or that one going up the ladder – wait for him at the bottom! Or as Good Karma saysDo Not Go for Revenge! God will allow you to see your enemies screw up in life! Like fighting as a well-paid person about One Rial with a Sales Girl!

Take Care!

By Majid Al Suleimany

March 13, 2015

 

 

 

 

 

You have won! You have not lost!

You have won! You have not lost!

Dear Ustaadh Majid!

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I was going through my emails and trying to delete some of the mail in order to make space for my Gmail Hotmail and Yahoo as my own websites emails have 10 GB of mail each and I have used only 5% last 5 years.

I found this email from a girl who had died in a nasty road accident with 8 members of her family in Al Mahda returning on Eid Day from UAE few years ago. As you might know, I wrote the book Being The Safe Driver! Behind The Wheel!  after this horrible accident. I was a HR Consultant at her place of work then!

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Short Takes! Book

QUOTE –

Dear Ustaadh Majid

After Greetings Compliments,

I was very happy to see you today in the Office and your present to me of the book Short Takes! I cried in my heart that you mentioned me in the book as the inspiration of your new book and that you followed my advice to add images to this book.

Ustaadh Majid. I am younger person to advise you! But I want to let you know that please do not allow anyone to make you feel sad and so small and insignificant. These people are really jealous of you and want to be like you in life but cannot be. They cannot even write a page let alone a book and you have written so many books already. You are a really good kind feeling person who always are helpful to people in need of a kind word support or advice. Everyone knows this Ustaadh!

Dear Majid Sir,

Please keep your head always high and we are all proud of you and knowing you. Be proud of what you are and have been and will always be, which they cannot and do not have! And please keep away from these bad people because they are enjoying to see that you are sad hurting and feeling low. We will always pray for you because Right and Good Always win in the ultimate end.

RAW – Unquote.

Quite a nice way to start 2015 New Year! Don’t you think so?

Happy Peaceful Safe Prosperous Happy and Enjoyable New Year 2015!

Best wishes and regards,

Majid Al Suleimany

January 1st 2015.

 

Was It Christmas?

Was It Christmas?

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Christmas Images!

December 26, 2014 

*** The Funeral ***

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The Funeral Images!

 

Have you seen this film? A Wedding and a Funeral? 

I do not know about you – but for me – I am always ready to expect the worst news at any time! Perhaps more that has got to do with my life recently – with all the ups and downs (more!)!

So when the call came early morning – and from someone who never calls just to chat – but more to pass the news now and then – I immediately knew something bad and amiss has happened! At first I thought it had to do with my sister in law whom we visited day before in the Hospital – admitted because of ‘breathing problems’! And that brings in the point that we do not appreciate Life’s Giving – and what God has given until something has gone missing – or is too late!

Trust us Omanis to always say polite chit chat greetings and compliments before ‘we give in the core news’. It has always been and never has changed – even that Police and The Court Clerk come home to arrest you! They will start nice – and end in the bad news ‘with the usual sugar coating on the bitter pill1per se! I see that you are saying to me the very same thing – you are doing the very same thing, my friend!

I remember in my old days in the old oil company – when the Top Guy (Omani) says to me = cut the crap – and just come to the point! The other day I met him in a Supermarket – and I was sure to give him the body signs that ‘I still remember and do not care much about him’ – though I felt conscience stricken and guilty when he called out my name ‘sort of fondly’ – and asked me what happened to the Between Us Only! columns?

I had to remind him a bit gently that he gave me the blast when I said ‘Between Us Only!’ and did not realise that I used to like to say this until when me and the esteemed newspaper were discussing what to call my columns! When I said it again – the good man who had opened the door for me to write uttered a bit loudly – Yes – we will call it ‘Between Us Only! It went on for 13 years more when it was ended more by a ‘technicality’ – if not evil design – and my book Goodbye; Between Us Only! – www.createspace.com/5139836 – said The Full Story!

So then this my son in law was saying to me – Uncle – Bad News! My Father has died just now! Peacefully in his sleep! And the funeral is going to be after afternoon prayers! So I went down and made my own breakfast – as the Filipino house maid of over 13 years was away celebrating Christmas Mass the night before! Yes – today was Christmas Day – and a funeral to go to!

Perhaps a Blessing in disguise – with all the ‘hate intolerant – ‘not let live and let live’ mails I was getting – of ‘not to celebrate Xmas’ – but now even ‘not to send greetings even’! I wrote the book A Cry For Help! in June 2009 – long before the so-called Arab Springs hit us – and even Oman was not spared! I had cautioned and warned of all things – but nobody cared or bothered!

So Christmas Day was ‘celebrated’ at the funeral grounds – burying a family member! Allah God Rest his soul in eternal peace and salvation – in this world and the next Ameen (Amen) – but he lived to be over 92 – with no major sickness or illness! A nice way to go too – peacefully – and not ‘be a cause of trouble and nuisance’ to others for ‘a long time’ – that the day you go – you get crude remarks like – he is now at peace at last! – and few tears around! Unless reminded – Hey someone has died! Why no tears and wails?? Happened to my late grandfather (PBUH) – and as a child it took me many years to apprehend and appreciate why no one was crying then! Except my poor Mother PBUH!

*** The Marriage ***

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I read this article about a dispute that had arisen at a time of our Great Prophet SAW when a person had died and there was also a wedding that was to take place almost at the same time. I do not profess to be much learned in Religious Affairs – so please do not ask me to give you References! Comes from a stern warning I got from a friend Religious Leader who ‘sternly warned me’ – Do not give Religious Stories (The Hadith) – unless you have ‘References’ to back you up! Anyway, to cut it short (cut the crap?) – it ‘was decided to bury the dead body first – and after a while to go to the wedding – after a respectful solemn time had elapsed to respect the dead – and their family and relative members!

Reminded of the incident, I was debating if I should go to the ‘three times repeatedly invited’ wedding at the Masjid (Mosque)? Same Day of the Funeral! Same Day of Christmas? Imagine someone choosing the date to get married! In most probabilities it never crossed the mind – because people are more concerned to have weddings at the weekends – and to have an available date with all the young marriages taking place now! Remember my article – From Pampers to Wedding Dress? You will – if you are a strong fan!

Talking about Fans! In the end I decided to go – and I was ready to answer some of those ‘so intrusive people into others personal affairs’ – why are you here? I thought you had a funeral? I was anyway practicing the great Religious Story to give – but thank God nobody dared to ask! Although there was a crude one who remarked – Still at the dish? – when all the others had left – and I was eating alone – as you know the Omani way of a big plate with morsels and morsels of meat and rice (Biriyani) to be eaten group-wise! I was remarking to one of the partakers that in ‘Africa only 2 people can finish off this plate’ – and here we were 6 Omanis and still half eating of the plate!

So before the meal there were some ‘fans’ inquiring about the articles – and what happened? I have now a field day to say what ‘really happened – and how they were all killed more by a technicality! And then the ‘followers’ still in the ‘social media’ remarked to me ‘how he liked what I wrote about ‘The Mafias and The Old Guards’ – and why reading newspapers is no longer interesting – as it was before! Sure to rub it in – I protested ‘innocently’ – do not blame me! Blame them instead!

Overall it was a very testing trying day – and showing all about life – from A Funeral to A Wedding!

Take Care! 

By

 Majid Al Suleimany

 Be The Safe Driver!

www.bethesafedriver.com

 

 

 

 

Completely Banning Alcohol in Oman?

Completely Banning Alcohol Controversy!

Can Oman Go Dry?

December 11, 2014

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Images Alcoholism – For Demonstration Purposes Only!

As some of you may still remember my columns Between Us Only! was ‘killed starting on a Technicality’ propagated by ‘The Indian Mafias’ and aided and supported by our own ‘The Old Guards’ – and right at the highest central profile media place!

See more herehttp://myownmajid.com/2014/12/10/no-more-between-us-only-this-is-goodbye/

Since the last 3 days or so, I have heard nothing but just very emotional and passionate discussions on the above topic! People have been calling me to write on the topic and send it to at least Muscat Daily or The Oman Tribune to be published – in addition to my websites!

Actually I have covered this subject intensively in my Arab Management Books and with my

own personal experiences at work and elsewhere!

I have also written about it intensively in my columns – Between Us Only! See last 2 samples below!

I can assure you – it is starting! Soon people will cry out for me to write again! Because there are FEW Pragmatic Broadminded ‘Live and Let Live’ Writers like me! Only again to say – I told you so! As I have already said it many times before!

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  • No matter how late they take ur words ….but one day ur words will make voice … I told u earlier my Guru!Omani Fan
  • It is always the people who know the least about you who want to judge you the most ..! Another!

What amazed me more is to find some ‘Drinkers’ supporting the decision – perhaps more from A Cry For Help! Syndrome – and surprisingly still from Non Drinkers and Followers who are against the proposal – because they believe ‘there is no compulsion in Religion’ – and not really being ‘Secular’ in outlooks and approaches! I do not know who said it – but there is this expression – I am against your views – but I will die defending your right to say it!

As Fans and Readers who know me well, I will present my views ‘from my heart and as if speaking to you directly from my heart’ – and coming from my own exposures and experiences in life! Actually, I have covered this subject intensively in my Arab Management books – see my books website – www.myownmajid.com – and also in my Between Us Only! Columns!

http://majidwrite.com/2013/03/17/increasing-alcohol-abuse/

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Article 1 – Increasing Alcohol Increase!

Article 1 – Increasing Alcohol Abuse!

For Sunday March 17th 2013

Between Us Only!

Increasing Alcohol Abuse!

v O you who believe! Intoxicants (all kinds of alcoholic drinks), gambling, idolatry, and diving arrows are an abomination of Satan’s handiwork. So avoid that so that you may be successful  – The Holy Quran 5: 90

v Alcohol maybe man’s worst enemy! – Frank Sinatra

v I don’t even drink! I can’t stand the taste of alcohol! – Kim Kardashian

v Alcohol gives you infinite patience for stupidity – Sammy Davis Jnr.

v Herb is the healing of a nation; alcohol is the destruction! – Bob Marley

v Alcohol is the anesthia by which we endure the operation of life – George Bernard Shaw.

Frankly and truthfully speaking, I have written on this very same topic a few times before! The last time I wrote on this – a few years ago – a very irate and upset relative of the family called me to start an abusive from the start discussion about my writings – and saying to me that he will be very blunt – because maybe the world does not know it – but he knows it for sure that an Indian guy working for this newspaper – was writing for me – and paying him on the sideline! He said to me – you can fool everyone – but not me! I know exactly about you. All things you think we do not know about you!

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The call was placed to me at 2 a.m. in those days when people still used land phone lines! And Madam Wife MW was worried because I was ‘at my best behaviour’ and just listening without saying anything – especially to the loud voices and shouts at the other end – after calling some minutes later – to ‘give me a piece of his mind – once more!’. Anyway – I told MW that it was a certain WRTXY – and certainly at that time he was not sober – and one could easily tell from the hoarse husky gruff voice at the other end. I do not know what hand signals he was also placing – as he was talking to me – but one does not need high imagination to fathom out what they could be!

Next day, at around noon he came to my Office – and I was just about to press the emergency link button to Security – when he started crying in the Office in very loud voices – now that he was sober – and asking for ‘my help to save him’ – and if I knew Alcoholics Anonymous contact – but I referred him to a fellow Omani peer who likes his drinks – and the one that easily became ‘high flying potential’ to succeed over a lot of the rest of us that went without and observing – because we had not caught on – and were ‘not modern’!

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When I was studying in UK in the 1970s,  my peers foreign students friends used to use me as their chauffeur to take them from the pubs – until that day when I put my foot down – when two of them dirtied my car. There was there one pretty tall local girl that really took a fancy to me – remember I was still young and not married then – but when she found out that I was not ‘drinking even socially’ – as she kindly put it – that was too much for her! And the pretty thing slipped through my fingers!

For a long time I was fighting with the devil whether to entertain her or not – until then when I remembered and came to my senses – as the East Africans say – The one who denies you beans – is just reducing you from getting gas! – And frankly not a lost grapes saga!

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In one of the new FDI companies,  I was in a very good position and status as their HR man in Oman. Until the day when the top guys from their home came to the launch – and found out that my white wine glass was actually a soft drink beverage! One of them was drawn to the bubbles in the glass – because as I understand it – the white wine does not cause bubbles?

He said to me – I am confused! I thought you were 3 years in UK? Explain to me! So I did! And that also happened in a Management course abroad – a few years before I retired – because the good final farewell party Organiser said to me – All you people (you people?) coming from (our region) drink heavily – why are you a fish out of water – from the famous expression – drink like a fish! Sic!

It is very sad to see the outlook and approach of life that some of our youngsters have adopted and taken that ‘it is okay – that you can drink a little – ‘just to socialise’ escapades – but they forget that it is how all the things start – before you start making a fool and nuisance of yourself – and cause strife and havoc in your married and family life. Sad when even the lassies do it too – because I can tell you – honestly and frankly – whether you believe me or not – that even those that like their drinks want a spouse and life partner that does not drink!

 Drinkin Images For Demonstration Purposes Only!

I have seen it real life experiences – both local and foreign – where marriages – even amongst the elders – supposed to be more patient and waiting in dreams for changes – have broken up – because of the stuff! Because that is the root cause of domestic violence! The people that suffer the most – and hopefully will not join in the future – copy and emulate  – are the children teenagers only!

Trust me – I am a great believer in ‘live and let live’ syndromes and approaches – because I could go to a pub and have my meal – and if you leave me alone to have nowadays my fresh juice also – and you have whatever you want – but don’t impose your rules and values to me – and I will not impose mine to you! If you say to me things like ‘a lot of you people (you people?) drink a lot – when you have only have few examples in reality to give – then we have problems ahead – between us – as I had said in my books too!

One long time ago – in a great party – one of the top local guys that just could not stand me – told me ‘why he hated me to the core’. Next day sober (hopefully!) he said to me – I hope I was not a nuisance yesterday? I said – sarcastically – more to myself – No Sir! You were okay! Why give him the advantage – and an ace card?

Allah God Guide us the Right Path and Way – Amin Amen. Take Care!

By Majid Al Suleimany

With sincere and due apologies!

 

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Article 2 – Rising Alcoholism Syndrome!

 For The Oman Daily Observer of Sunday June 7th 2010,

Between Us Only!

Rising Alcoholism Syndrome!

In all my writings, and in My Books, I have tried my level best to move away from writing taboo subjects – but the coming incident confirmed to write on this one – with sincere, genuine and due apologies.

I had been to this Recreation Centre when I saw a group of young Omanis come out from the Alcohol Bulk store with carts full of the stuff – from beers to the real heavy and expensive stuff – because cartons betray what they have inside them! They looked to me as recently joined Graduates to the Company.

So the mean and evil streak in me decided to play a game with them. I asked them if they could spare me a few drinks – and I was willing to pay for them. It was already coming evening Prayer time – so one of the nicer kinder sympathetic ones offered me the address because they were having a bash and celebration from what looked similar to Gonnu to strike our Omani shores! This shocked me to smithereens – the approach to celebrate before the storm struck – instead of going into prayers and reciting our Holy books instead – like some of us in our generation would normally do.

Just for the records, being a member of that club, I too could purchase in bulk if I had wanted – but then I am not ‘developed and progressed enough’ with my sad state of affairs of being a student in UK for three years – still single at that time – and downstairs opposite lane I used to sit and watch those indulging (including pretty young girls too!) making a fool and spectacle of themselves after awhile – and too good and decent a material to bring into my column in this esteemed newspaper! But let us put it this way – I told all to the good wife before our marriage!!

Some years ago when I was travelling to UK for my Management course, the local guy beside me pressed the distress call button just as the plane was taking off from Muscat International airport (we could even see it below us) – and the poor air hostess came running to find what was wrong? Remember The Fasten Your seatbelts sign was on! The man asked for a beer! I do not know if he was afraid to fly – or maybe taking early advantage of the limited free offer of drinks on board as travelling Economy!

The Air Hostess firmly put him in his place – though he kept the button chiming! Then when the warning seat signal was off, he said give me English beer! He mentioned a brand which even dumb and stupid me in ignorance and being backwards as a teetotaller knew was a Dutch brand – and not an English one – as in my job aspects of peers trying to impress our Western bosses that they are progressed and developed! I remember even one peer who joked to me in front of our British boss – he was a Non Believer in God though – and said it when he was even sober to us! My friend peer was teasing me – M – it is time for prayers, what are you doing still waiting here? I have had suckers and yes men in my life – but as our Indian friends say – this one had the biscuit!

I have met many people I know where families are complaining to me to write about this subject – but I am always the type of person who is a Live and Let Live type of person – but to limits – when you start to encroach on me in your superiority false outlooks – and that you know better even for me – then we have issues and problems. So long as you leave me alone, I drink my carbonated and or fresh juices with those at the party enjoying themselves – but at the same time can leave the table and go for my prayers – I am that type of person per se!

A lot of families complain of smoking and alcoholism amongst some of their family members – and sadly and tragically including the teenagers and the youth too. One of the off shots of increased road accidents and fatalities is this stuff! There is also this element of domestic and family violence as a result of alcoholism, resulting in increasing divorces, family breakdowns and social disorders.

Personally I do not believe in imposing rules and regulations – Believing in Live and Let Live – and have even a blog under such a name! However,  as parents and grandparents – and as elders – we do have a prime and fundamental duty to lead by examples – and advice, counsel and caution the youth to protect and preserve our heritage, customs, traditions, values and culture as a people – and the teachings and practices of our religion – and even if to be in moderation when going flexible and accommodating!

I remember this incident very well after my father had expired – and I was receiving condolences in my villa in Qurum. They wanted some juice – and unfortunately I had left only apple juice! Soon after a while, my uncle from the village came to me and started yelling and shouting to me – how could you? And my uncle in Muscat cut him short – and said you must have got your facts twisted and intertwined – because I was accused of offering beer to them! My town uncle said very emphatically and strongly – I do not know about the others, but I can guarantee on my life that this son of Late Said NEVER DRINKS the stuff! That is confidence for you!

Incidentally Happy Birthday me! Take Care!

By Majid Said Nasser Al Suleimany

I am not sure who said it – but it could be Pervez ex Pakistan Leader or Mahathir Mohamed – ex Malaysian Leader – who said that people are only more interested in life in The Basic Necessities of Life like Air, Food, Water, Shelter and Clothing – though some would also add Health and Love to the equation. People are lesser interested in higher buildings, bigger roads and flyovers, bigger airports and seaport – or newer industries and projects – or schemes. That is for them to live and survive the Basic Necessities of Life are more paramount and predominant!

Take Care!

By Majid Al Suleimany

December 11th 2014

 

Book Two – Goodbye; Between Us Only!

The Second Final Book!

The End of My Columns!

No More – Between Us Only!

Goodbye; Between Us Only! My New Book!

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About The Book!

I        PREFACE

This book is the 11th book in The Series – Between Us Only! And my 21st book so far.

It is recommended that this book be read together with this book: –

Writing: My Passion! – www.createspace.com/5085322

* Also – Goodbye; Between Us Only! – www.createspace.com/5139836

There were some articles missed out in the above * book after the end and the collapse of my column articles in November 2013 – more than a year ago!

What is of paramount importance is to get all my articles Post last Between Us Only1 series – Wipe My Tears! The book was published in June 2013 – all intended to put all my books in one place for further references and for record purposes!

I have also included all those articles after end of my columns mainly based on ‘a Technicality’ that was designed to stop and to end my columns.

I was keeping to myself and trying to avoid conflict – but still people were after me! So I decided to accept the challenge – and write and record this book as last of my columns writings for future records and references.

No one can kill the spirit, soul and heart of a Writer – because so long as a Writer will live he will not stop writing!

As Jules Renard had said – No one considers a Writer as ridiculous – even if he does not make any money! So there! Besides, I had posted this in all The Social Media – November 13, 2014

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This book is the 11th book in The Series – Between Us Only! And my 21 book so far. 

In order to expedite the book publishing process, minimal images are going to be inserted.

Paramount importance is to get all my articles Post last Between Us Only1 series – Wipe My Tears! The book was published in June 2013 – all intended to put all my books in one place for further references and for record purposes!

I have also included all those articles after end of my columns mainly based on ‘a Technicality’ designed to stop and to end my columns.

I was keeping to myself and trying to avoid conflict – but still people were after me! So I decided to accept the challenge – and write and record this book as the last of my columns writings for future records and references.

No one can kill the spirit, soul and heart of a Writer – because so long as a Writer will live he will not stop writing!

As Jules Renard had said – No one considers a Writer as ridiculous – even if he does not make any money! So there! Besides, I had posted this in all The Social Media – November 13, 2014

Why are we so set against each other? We will support The Foreigner and The Expatriate but not esteem and value our own! We do not have trust and confidence on our own! It is part of this great CURSE Jealousy, Envy and Bad Hearts within us! Bad unfeeling uncaring hearts inside some of us only! Pure evil-like just as is ISIL!

  • It takes only one person to destroy the works that took so many others so many years to build – and we never learn until it is too late!
  • Do Not Cry It Is Over! Be Happy That It Has Happened!

Take Care!

By Majid Al Suleimany

December 5th 2014.

 

**They Will Not Publish This!

**They Will Not Publish This!

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The Omani Youth Are Ready For Their Dutiful Roles and Responsibilities – if we allow them to!

For a long time now I have been concentrating on propagating my books – www.myownmajid.com – rather than commenting on the many articles that have appeared – especially in The English Press – as to Why The Omani Youth Are Not Employable (Into Jobs!). I said I will keep to myself – because for all my life I have been fighting against this theme and focus – and from The First Day I started working in Human Resources after my graduation in 1976! The same slogans – the same emphasis – nothing much has yet changed – despite us not ‘escaping The Arab Springs repercussions’!

What made me write this article today is what I saw an ‘Expert’ British Lady writing in one of The Websites that carried His Majesty Speech to The Omani People! Allah Give him quick recovery, long life and health – Ameen!

In this article this lady had given her opinion why Oman is in Trouble – because Omanisation has failed badly! It is surprising out there that everyone becomes an ‘Expert’ when it comes to ‘why the Omani Youth is NOT EMPLOYABLE in especially The Private Sector! I do not blame her – because even our Own Columnists say almost the very same things – with bits here and there in variations!

I read also of The Ministry of Information talking the Chief Editors of The Newspapers! Frankly, I think he needed to speak more to The English Press – where ‘The Indian Mafia’ et al reign supreme under the ‘watchful eyes of The Old Guards’ – some are not even in that category but more being weak, docile, gullible and naïve lots – rather than having any sort of political touch or bias!

So please forgive me as an ex now retired Human Resources Management Consultant, Professional, Expert and Advisor making my valid pertinent points! Besides, the fact that I published 4 Arab Management Books – (1) Psychology of Arab Management Thinking! – (2) A Cry For Help! – (3) Arab Management: Reality or Myth? The Arab Manager – and (4) The Arab Manager: The Call! – all in my books websites – www.myownmajid.com and www.myown-ebooks.com

I was also looking at LinkedIn and saw this Indian guy being promoted every time – and this time to Vice President of The Group! And that brings us to the subject matter of today! I have actually worked together with this gentleman! I will say this for him in truth and sincerity! He has the power and knack of bringing in money to the establishment – because he has many workable good ideas!

But if you ask me if I had my own Company – would I employ him? Money coming in or not – the answer is strong negative that I would not! Because he has the worst record of ‘negativity’ on The Omani Youth – and that stretches even to The Highly Qualified Omanis – because if he had his own way – and he was given Full Authority – NO OMANI WILL BE EMPLOYED BY HIM! Yet his Sponsors keep promoting him – and look at the other way – because he is bringing in money to the establishment! That is all that mattered here! Nothing less or more!

So please forgive me as I go along here!

I can only relate to things and aspects that I have personally experienced! If The Leadership out there are really interested, they should make someone to READ MY BOOKS – especially The Arab Management ones! They are full of Real True Examples of what is going on! Instead of sending the books as Complimentary Gifts to TOP VIPS – and there is ‘not even a slight humanity or decency’ of saying thanks for the gift – looking at a gift horse in the mouth! Why? Because deep down in their consciences and hearts – they know I am speaking the TRUTH ONLY!

They should actually translate the books – and make it Compulsory Reading – for everyone from a Director upwards in The Public Sector – and CERTAINLY even in its current forms to all The Top Management in The Companies – especially Those GMs and MDS in Oman over the last 25 years – and NOTHING has really changed on the ground – as far as they are concerned!

But then as we Arabs like to say – There is no one so blind but with eyes but cannot see; no one so deaf but with ears but cannot hear; and no one so dumb but with a mouth but cannot speak! Or as The Romans say – Those that the gods want to destroy – they make them not see, hear or speak!

Besides, the very pertinent and important point – even if I am not that right or correct in my views and assertions – or perhaps right in some but wrong in others etc. – His Majesty has personally allowed his citizens to have an Independent Thinking and Outlooks– as long as they are able to express their views and why they think so! As a Loyal Citizen, no one can deny me this Right – even if they had ‘killed’ my columns more on a Technicality rather than anything else!

Live Example One.

I wrote about this example before many times! Here was a young Omani Engineering Graduate Lady who was applying in one of the companies I was working as The Head of HR! She had a Degree in Project Management as her Specialisation – and from our own University in SQU. She was applying for a job as a ‘Secretary’ in one of the jobs that we were advertising! That is the point I want to make here. Usually these things are done by Recruitment – and though I had just taken over from an Indian guy – she too Indian was ‘running the show’ behind scenes – which I soon put an end to! You as The Omani HR Head MUST BE INTERESTED FIRST!

She was trying to arrange for a Trade Test in Secretary for The Applicants. I told her – I want to see this girl first! Why as an Engineer she is applying for a Secretarial Job? Typical of their lots she cracked jokes that maybe I was interested because she was pretty – or I know the family as she came from Nizwa? Near Manaa – where many Al Suleimanys came from! She was not Al Suleimany anyway!

When she came – I asked her point blank! Are you serious to apply for this job – yet an Engineering graduate? Shame! What she told me shook me to my very foundations – and I can assure you that I am largely built too! She told me – Her Professors had told her it will be easy to get a good Engineering job – even if she was a woman – because of her specialization! Yet she went to all The Construction and Project Offices companies – and they offered her only Admin, Clerical and Secretarial jobs. All these companies were Indian GMs Managed! One had even the audacity to want her syllabus of the University to see what ‘they teach’! These are the same companies that get always LARGE CONSTRUCTION JOBS from the Government – but taking a qualified educated Omani lady was an issue – because they wanted these jobs for their own home lots – unless there were isolated pressures now and then – and mainly from the outside!

I talked to my MD (Nice American Person) and we took her in Inventory Logistics as a Trainee – the nearest thing that was near Engineering! The point I am making here is ‘people need to be interested and to get involved’ – rather than ‘not wanting to rock the boat’ – or ‘wanting to look nice and good’ to especially ‘foreigners’ – he is our boy! Or girl!

The second incident is nearer home with the same outlooks. My daughter who had an Engineering Degree in Electronics and Electrical – and this time in UK!! Only The MOG companies are ‘more serious’ than the rest! In some of the Company Websites – the First Question is – Sex? Not the Indian joke one of 3 times a week? But real gender! If you reply Female – an Automatic Reply come up – Sorry! These jobs are only for Male Candidates – even The Project Jobs!

It is so easy to live in a fanciful world. By repeating lies over and over again, in the end people start to believe that ‘it is our Education System’ that is at fault! I would agree to a certain extent maybe there should be more emphasis on work attitudes, ethics and focuses – but blaming the Education System goes well to ‘satisfy the Mafias – mainly Indian led – with due apologies here – and certainly The Old Guards who want NO CHANGES – or Rocking The Boat!

I would recommend moving all those Expatriates in Top Positions who have been there for the last 20 years plus and bring in New Blood – if there are no Omani takers! But certainly MORE RISK TAKING of putting Omani ‘that care and feel for their own’ – and are also similarly inclined For More Risk Taking of their subordinate Omanis – and VALUE AND ESTEEM their own more – rather than putting candidates of ‘Our own Boys’ and Girls’ who will do our bidding – or do as we tell them to do!

Also it is High Time to stop all these advertisements in especially English Newspapers of Visitors looking for a job – and a Special Division be created that sends such Applicants back home for such visits under ‘guise of Tourism’ when actually they are coming here for jobs – and silly games being played to deny our own jobs because of such temporary filling of jobs by these lots!

I know I am burning my bridges behind me – and building more enemies at the same time! But no one can do these things except ourselves only! Please REMEMBER His Majesty is sick person – and we should not trouble him by these things that we can do ourselves as a start!

With sincere genuine apologies!

Majid Al Suleimany

Majid bin Said bin Nasser bin Zahor bin Salim bin Masoud bin Ali Al Suleimany

Manah – Nizwa & Hayll Al Ghaff – Quriyat.

** Especially The English Press and Media!

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Demonstrations! We do not need these things now!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Be Careful Whom You Hurt In Life!

Be Careful Whom You Hurt In Life!

What Goes Around; Comes Around!

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Images – For Demonstration Purposes Only!

Incident Number One!

A friend had sent me this about a man in Tanzania as he was relating his life story to an Imam Sheikh. When he was a young man and had just got his driving license he saw a dog across the street with 3 puppies’ children of the dog.

Being bad and vicious person he decided to run over the puppies to see what the Mother dog would do? The dog was in great pain and traumatised by the death of her children that she soon after died of heartbreak! The young man enjoyed this very much and thought it was all fun and joy!

Dog and Puppies

Images – For Demonstration Purposes Only!

As usual years later he forgot about the incident. He got married and Allah Blessed him with three sons. The First two sons died by Road Accidents when they were just teenagers. When his last remaining son reached 18 he decided to protect him by driving him himself to a College exam. He got out of the car and took his son across the busy street to the College.

I know of the place!

As they were crossing the street this irate driver was driving too fast and could not stop in time at the Zebra crossing! He saw his son die in front of his eyes! He went to The Sheikh to admit the crime he dis as a Youth. That Allah was punishing him now for a thing he did several years back.

Something he thought insignificant and inferior! A dog – to a dog’s children puppies … but instead here now to his own children!

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Incident Number Two!

This man – older than me at the time – told me this story himself! I do not know the man – he met me at a party – and he just wanted to confess to me (someone?) Perhaps because he found out that the people he ‘disliked the most’ were not to what he had expected! Perhaps the drinks had loosened his tongue!

It is scary what he told me Years later I asked myself why I did not get involved more to do something against this person? I do not know the answer – to this very day! Like I said – I do not know the person – it is his word against mine in the final analysis!

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He told me – he was with three other friends! They were in a pick up! They saw this lady whose car had a flat tyre! So they stopped to help her! The woman was gracious in thanks and gratitude! So she said – I do not know how to thank you!

So the three men found a way – as men’s minds usually do! It was a dark road in those old days! Then they left her by the side of the road! At least they did not harm her more or kill her! I asked him what happened to the woman later on – he just replied he does not know!

Years later his own two daughters got ‘similar treatment’ from other men! I am not sure about this part – but I think he said one of them had committed suicide because of ‘the stigma and the shame’! He was crying because of the ‘bad things he had done on others’! Simply because he did not like ‘these peoples’! His own words! I was one of the ‘peoples he did not like’ – perhaps why he wanted to confess to me!

That home I returned home – a very troubled person! Felt so helpless and impotent – and so much confused and devastated!

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Incident No. 3 – The Boss who always liked to delete all my mail (even Official!)!

I will not go much in detail in this! Have said it so many times before! It is him and the other person (GM) who turned me down for ‘a Job Offer’ that was already verbally promised to me by his Chairman of The Board – on flimsy technicality!

Both of them have ended in great dire straits legally for cases that followed against them! I feel very sorry for them – and frankly would not have wished these on them – though they had hurt, traumatized and pained me a lot at the time

 

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Incident No. 4

This Emirati boss took great pleasure to see that he has fired me! He threw ‘a high 5 with his Secretary’ – Syrian origin – who was the Main Instigator to see me go – so they could bring her relative (to take over from a GCC National!). Months later both were summarily terminated on the spot – because their relationships went too much – even if already ‘a public secret!’! At least they gave me three months’ salary in lieu as ‘Blood Money!

She was returned to Syria – and her visas cancelled Months later, The Syrian Revolution began! I pray and hope she is still alive and well – Ameen!

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The East Africans sayIf you and break down someone’s home – yours too will be destroyed in due course – and when you least expected it – after usually some successes!

Also the person who climbs a ladder will have to come down!

The Chinese sayIf you dig a grave for your enemy; dig two graves! Keep one for yourself!

The English people also say this! – What goes around; comes around!

The Indian people also say – Good Karma! Do not go for revenge – God will allow you to see and watch these peoples screw up!

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We have to be very careful and watch whom we hurt and pain in our lives! Because sometimes you think the person is insignificant and not important to you (now)…but you never know in life!

Do not pain or hurt someone by cruel words and deeds. Because you will be paid back one day. Usually when you have forgotten already…and then you get hut back!

Take care and pass this on…so we all can learn from one another..to be better people in life in The Right Path and Way Ameen Amen

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